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Mentoring younger moms: How can you help?

It was a cold February day in 2008 when I left the hospital with my newborn daughter. I had just turned 39.

It was almost five days after I was admitted and one month before her actual due date. Aside from a 21 hour labor and delivery, we had endured issues like a huge drop in my blood pressure (at one point the nurse joked, “Welcome back from the dead!”) to a port in my daughter’s head to administer meds and a stay in NICU for jaundice along with just “preemie” observation.

Compared to some other stories I’ve heard, I know these are minor issues. However, I didn’t sleep for almost five days. (Seriously. Hardly a wink.) I was a woman in her prime–a woman who had been through careers and owning businesses and traveling the world–yet this whole giving birth thing had my body and emotions in a stir. I was overwhelmed. I was emotional. I was exhausted.

As I was leaving the hospital, I rode down the elevator with another new mom who had just been discharged. She was much, much younger than me. It was hard to tell with her limp hair and exhausted face, but she seemed to be early 20s (maybe younger).

I nonchalantly commented how excited I was to be discharged and was shocked by her comment.

“I’m not that excited,” she almost whispered.

“I don’t have anyone to help me. My brother is going to stay with me for a few days, but after that I don’t know what I’m going to do. I can’t afford a ‘sitter when I go back to work.”

I was speechless. I had a very involved husband. Both of my parents were waiting at our house to assist us as soon as we arrived. A friend’s mom had cleaned my house spotless from top-to-bottom while I was in the hospital. I had girlfriends to lend support.

I was blessed.

Something inside told me to exchange telephone numbers with that young woman, but I didn’t. It seemed too awkward, too prying.

I still think of her often and wonder what happened to her and her baby. I had a ton of support and I was still overwhelmed. I wonder how she handled it?

I would’ve liked to mentor that young mom. It’s not that I have all the answers, but at least I could’ve been there to lend an ear and give support. If I had to do it over again, I definitely would’ve exhanged numbers. Sometimes moms need someone else to take that first step.

How can you mentor young moms in need?

1. Contact your local social worker. He or she often comes in contact with young moms in need. Leave your name and number with the social worker and let them know you would be happy to lend support for a young mom.

2. Join play groups. Not only will you and your child have fun, but you will also meet moms of all ages where friendship will happen naturally.

3. Start a “Mentoring Moms” group at your church or house of worship. Match experienced moms with newer moms over monthly meetings.

4. Place flyers in coffee shops or on community bulletin boards for a new moms group. Create a free email address for the group so you don’t have to list your home number or email address publically.

5. Contact local homeless and women’s shelters. Many single moms stay at the shelters. Offer to mentor one, or create a support group at the shelter.

6. Connect online. Keep your eye out for online groups that support connecting with other moms. These can be a great starting point for mentoring new moms or other moms in need.

Have you mentored another mom? Share your story or idea in the comments below.

[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’][/author_image] [author_info]About the Author

Jacqueline Wilson is a wife and mother of three daughters. She is a published author in the medical academic arena and a freelance writer and course developer. You can read more of her here, on 40 Moms Club, or find her daily parenting humor on her personal blog, Writer Ramblings on Parenting Imperfectly. [/author_info] [/author]

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Along with being a contributor to, Jacqueline Wilson is: Appalachia Advocate~Supporter of Women~Writer~Accidental Pit Bull Advocate.


  1. 40MomsClub

    October 25, 2010 at 2:02 pm

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    • wmcgiggles

      October 25, 2010 at 2:07 pm

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      • 40MomsClub

        October 25, 2010 at 2:42 pm

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    • WritRams

      October 25, 2010 at 2:17 pm

      RT @40MomsClub: Mentoring younger moms: How can you help?… #moms #help

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