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Pinball Wizard

Most of you will remember playing pinball games. I loved playing pinball long before the other video games came along. Remember pulling back the ball-pusher thingy (I am sure that has a name!), sending the ball speeding up to the top to be turned loose in the land of flashing lights, dinging bells, spring-loaded traps, trampoline-type things, and all kinds of obstacles and adventures? And then, just when you thought you might lose the ball down the middle, you swat the paddle and up it goes again!

Do you feel like you are in a pinball game?

I know that many of you feel like that little ball in the pinball game. You fly out of the bed in the morning and bounce around all day long, based on whatever you bump into and who needs you to do what.

Take a peek at this human pinball video, I thought it was kinda cool! I wish we could get bonus points!

What you have to do is figure out how to get out of the craziness game. You have to decide that you will approach your day with purpose and some focus. Don’t just let life happen to you, but be an active participant. What happens many times is that we just respond to what is going on around us. 

>Decide what is important to you in your life. Is it your children, your health, your community, the environment?

>Make choices based upon those important things. Don’t just bounce around. Make a list of your things to accomplish for the day. Not a list of 20 or 30 things, but of the top 3 or 4 that are the most important.

>Refuse to allow yourself to be drawn into other’s drama. If it isn’t your problem, don’t jump in the middle of it. Obviously, there are times to be compassionate and helpful, but not every situation is YOUR responsibility.

>Learn to recognize the feelings you get when you start getting bounced around. Practice some deep breathing and analyze the situation calmly.

One of the posts over on my blog–13 ways to make sure you stay stressed out–should be very helpful in this as well.

What you really have to do is figure out how to get out of the craziness game. You have to decide that you will approach your day with purpose and some focus. Don’t just let life happen TO you, be an active participant. What happens many times is that we just respond to what is going on around us.

So, do YOU live in a pinball game?


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Regular Contributor Bernice Wood is a mother of 4 young adult kids, plus Nana to 7 grandchildren. After a major life change summer 2010, she began blogging to journal her personal struggles and transition. To help others avoid the pitfalls of stress and burnout and learn to live a more healthy life, she recently launched her new blog at Living the Balanced Life. She and her husband are also beginning a new blog at Empty Nesters Off the Chain. [/author_info][/author]

4 Comments

  1. paul

    July 1, 2011 at 4:33 pm

    I have a busy busy life. I’m operations officer at a consulting firm/ father of 2/ religious life/ run a consultancy on the side/ and still have to eat and exercise.

    I just want 1 hour to myself a day really. One good break in the day to leave everything else except for the clear.

  2. Steve/Authentic Abundance

    May 1, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    I can definitely relate. One of the best ideas I’ve heard is to map out your week like a checkerboard, with one square for each hour of the day and figure out how you need to fill it. You’ll soon see how over -committed you are — and this will force you to prioritize.

    I’d love to hear your people’s views on how they avoid becoming a pin ball wizard.

  3. Prime Parents' Club

    April 21, 2011 at 10:38 am

    LOVED this one “Obviously, there are times to be compassionate and helpful, but not every situation is YOUR responsibility.”

    As usual, you are right on the mark, Bernice. Thanks for the reminder.

    (PS–the “scream” at the beginning of that video scared the crap out of me.)