When I was a younger adult but already married with kids, I would get called several times a month from my father for the specific purpose of warning me about the weather. If it was going to rain or freeze, or the wind was going to be bad, or whatever, he felt the need to call and tell me. I had a TV and radio and I watched the news, so it wasn’t like I wasn’t able to check the weather on my own. It used to irritate me that he would call “just to make sure I had heard about the weather forecast.”
We did not have a wonderful close relationship during my growing up years. Through my young adult years I was so busy raising a family that I didn’t spend a lot of time with my parents, even though they lived 30 minutes from us. Later, as he got sicker, we got closer and I learned some things about his childhood and why he turned out to be the man he was. He finally told me he was proud of what my husband and I had accomplished with our family, and that he was glad we had decent relationships with our kids and grandkids. After battling skin cancer for 10 years, my father passed away in October of 2006.
It dawned on me later that I have turned into my father. Well, not really, but I did pick up some positive traits from him. (We won’t talk about the negative. Ha!)
In our own family, we have four young adult kids. One is 29 years old and married with six kids. The second child is almost 23, lives on her own, is engaged and quite an explorer. The third child is 20 and still lives at home, but is gone frequently to school, work, or spending time with his fiancé and young daughter. The baby of the family is 18. She still lives at home, attending community college and trying to determine where she is going to school this fall.
I find that whenever the weather is going to be bad, I text them. Especially the younger two, but even the second oldest at times. In March, she drove 14 hours to Chicago through a snowstorm (we are from the South, we don’t do snow). I was watching The Weather Channel the entire time and calling with updates and to check on her.
I want to make sure they are safe, that they are aware of the conditions, and that they take precautions. Young people seem to think they are invincible.
Yesterday, we had some major weather headed our way into Georgia. I made sure my youngest knew to be in before it hit. And that is when it dawned on me that I missed having my daddy call me to tell me about the weather. He was only doing it because he loved me and wanted to be sure I was safe. And I miss that.
As I was driving home yesterday, I received a text from my second daughter, Christa, the one living in Chicago area for a few months. I had to smile and my heart warmed when I saw the words of her text:
BE SAFE IN THE NASTY WEATHER!
If your parents are still alive, check on them, spend time with them, and tell them that you love them. And, if they do things to annoy you–like ask you the same things over and over–remember, they are doing it because they love you!
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Regular Contributor Bernice Wood is a mother of 4 young adult kids, plus Nana to 7 grandchildren. After a major life change summer 2010, she began blogging to journal her personal struggles and transition. To help others avoid the pitfalls of stress and burnout and learn to live a more healthy life, she recently launched her new blog at Living the Balanced Life. She and her husband are also beginning a new blog at Empty Nesters Off the Chain. [/author_info][/author]