As a homeschooling mom, I enjoy listening to or reading about what other homeschooling moms have to share. I can always use another good tip or insight into this journey, which we began just last year. That doesn’t seem so long ago when I put it like that, but I’ve learned so much and grown so much that it feels like it should be longer. On top of that, via my blog or “in real life.” I’m able to encourage and help other homeschooling moms now as well.
However, I haven’t arrived…I’m still a work in progress; and I was challenged recently after listening to a CD of a country woman sharing her homeschooling ideas. She shared her favorite things that she did with her children around 20 years. Back then, she didn’t have all the curriculum or blogs that are available today. Even Christian schools would not sell their curriculum to homeschoolers, she said. So she did what she could and she kept it fun.
She didn’t have all of the doubt causing distractions many of us face today. She bought workbooks from Walmart, used the library a lot, and was quite creative, I think, by taping a loving instructional message to her four year old daughter so she would know how special her mama thought she was. I think she must have done many things right from what I’ve seen, read or heard about her children.
And she didn’t try to make them into something she might have wanted. Not that she wanted them to be doctors, lawyers, or presidents, but she didn’t choose their “calling” in life. She let God work that out according to his plan.
Listening to her share her story and ideas made an impact on me in a few different ways–things that should be important to all of us as parents.
Time is fleeting. Our children do not stay children long. I already see this in my oldest. He’s seven. That’s young. But it’s not the same as being five. Two years can make a big difference. That country mama believed that during childhood we need to make this the time of our lives, it will soon be gone.
Do I want to look back and remember these days with my children as days I couldn’t wait to be over? What about pushing my child to be someone academically that he isn’t? Do I want my kids to look back and remember how unhappy their life was during homeschooling or how about traditional schooling? Are my expectations of my child really in his best interest, or am a I trying to “keep up with the Jones'” children? What kind of memories am I cultivating right now with my children?
Lighten up. Kids are naturally silly and energetic–especially during the times you want them to straighten up and do the task at hand, whatever it may be. I’m just too serious too often. For me, I think this will be the hardest of my three points to overcome, because it’s just who I am. But that doesn’t mean I’m right in being that way. I am a product of many things.
Things that shape us can include our birth order (for example I’m the oldest of nine kids), the environment we grew up in, the things that have happened to us–to name a few. We should always be honest with ourselves and be willing to change what needs changed.
Think not only of “here and now,” but also of “eternity.” As a Christian, am I investing in my child with eternity in mind? Someday all this education will not matter. Our physical life will end. Have I prepared my child for that? God’s word tells me my relationship with God through Christ assures me of a home in heaven after this life. But my child will not “inherit” my faith, he will not slide into heaven on my coattails. He will have to make that decision of faith for himself someday or pay the consequences.
Parenting is not for the weak, my friends! It’s an awesome, God-given calling. Where are you on this journey?
[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]http://www.primeparentsclub.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/primeparentpic.jpg[/author_image] [author_info]About the Author
“Homeschooling-mom” and “mom-blogger” are two roles Tracy Zdelar didn’t plan on owning. However, as they often do, things changed. She is the Prime Parents’ Club Homeschooling Contributor and also writes at her blog Hall of Fame Moms. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.[/author_info]