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Adoption Process | Walk Like a Mom, Talk Like a Mom

Wednesday at 11 a.m.  Wednesday at 11 a.m. at the adoption agency.  Wednesday at 11 a.m. at the adoption agency and my husband and I have a two-hour interview – another step in the process to add a new member to our family.

I’m nervous.  We have three kids and I’m nervous because, after 14 years of being a mom, what if something I say or do or how I look gives the impression that this just isn’t my gig?  Two hours seem like an awfully small window of time to determine whether or not we can continue on through the process.  

What ifs march through my brain in a parade of doubt that it is hard to explain to others.  Even my husband.  What if we’re too old?  Too loud?  Too messy?  Too goofy?

How do I explain that the best thing I’ve ever done, next to marrying my husband, is being a mom to my kids?  That when I’m gone I don’t care if anyone remembers titles I had or positions I held, but I want to be remembered by my kids as their biggest fan, advocate, teacher, coach and mentor.

One of the funniest and most memorable compliments I’ve ever received was when my youngest was 6 years old and he told me, “Mom, you’re weird, you’re funny, and you smell good.”  

As I remembered that moment on the morning of the interview , something within me loosened and I was able to take my first deep breath in days.  

I told the kids I loved them and that I was a little nervous about the interview at the agency.  They all hugged me and shared advice.  Our almost 14-year-old daughter said, “Be honest.  And don’t freak out, mom!”  Our 12-year-old son said, “Be honest.  Like if they ask you if you spank us, you should say ‘yes.’”  And my youngest son of 8 years told me, “Just tell them you are a good mom.  If they don’t believe you, then get out your pistol.”

All of this reminded me that at our house we have one of the most important tools for a family–a sense of humor that helps us all keep things in perspective.

 

*Note – we passed the interview and are moving to the next phase in the process – 2 full days of adoption eduction classes.  We’re thrilled!


 

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[/author_image] [author_info]About the Author

 Cate Adcock is the Prime Parents’ Club general contributor and a buyer for the online home furnishings retailer, Hayneedle. She also blogs with her sisters over at Real Life with Kids – the blog she founded in February, 2010.

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4 Comments

  1. rockle

    October 7, 2011 at 4:38 pm

    interesting in hearing more of your story – and comparing notes. our darling chewbacca was adopted 3-1/2 years ago.

    (note: we didn’t adopt chewbacca, just the hair.)

    • Cate

      October 7, 2011 at 5:45 pm

      Ha! Yes! Comparing notes is going to be fun. Bacon filled chats anticipated.

  2. Cate

    October 7, 2011 at 2:45 pm

    Thanks, Jackie!!
    I have gotten so much support from friends and family it is a pleasure to share.
    It has also been so interesting to learn about the process – and how many misconceptions there are about adoption. I’m looking forward to writing something about “open adoption” – what it is and what it isn’t.
    Stay tuned!
    Much love,
    Cate

  3. Prime Parents' Club

    October 7, 2011 at 12:18 pm

    LOVED this post. Thank you so much for sharing this process with us. I cannot wait to read more about your journey. And, you’re right, if your family has a sense of humor, you can get through anything. HUGS!

    /jackie