Wednesday at 11 a.m. Wednesday at 11 a.m. at the adoption agency. Wednesday at 11 a.m. at the adoption agency and my husband and I have a two-hour interview – another step in the process to add a new member to our family.
I’m nervous. We have three kids and I’m nervous because, after 14 years of being a mom, what if something I say or do or how I look gives the impression that this just isn’t my gig? Two hours seem like an awfully small window of time to determine whether or not we can continue on through the process.
What ifs march through my brain in a parade of doubt that it is hard to explain to others. Even my husband. What if we’re too old? Too loud? Too messy? Too goofy?
How do I explain that the best thing I’ve ever done, next to marrying my husband, is being a mom to my kids? That when I’m gone I don’t care if anyone remembers titles I had or positions I held, but I want to be remembered by my kids as their biggest fan, advocate, teacher, coach and mentor.
One of the funniest and most memorable compliments I’ve ever received was when my youngest was 6 years old and he told me, “Mom, you’re weird, you’re funny, and you smell good.”
As I remembered that moment on the morning of the interview , something within me loosened and I was able to take my first deep breath in days.
I told the kids I loved them and that I was a little nervous about the interview at the agency. They all hugged me and shared advice. Our almost 14-year-old daughter said, “Be honest. And don’t freak out, mom!” Our 12-year-old son said, “Be honest. Like if they ask you if you spank us, you should say ‘yes.’” And my youngest son of 8 years told me, “Just tell them you are a good mom. If they don’t believe you, then get out your pistol.”
All of this reminded me that at our house we have one of the most important tools for a family–a sense of humor that helps us all keep things in perspective.
*Note – we passed the interview and are moving to the next phase in the process – 2 full days of adoption eduction classes. We’re thrilled!
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[/author_image] [author_info]About the Author
Cate Adcock is the Prime Parents’ Club general contributor and a buyer for the online home furnishings retailer, Hayneedle. She also blogs with her sisters over at Real Life with Kids – the blog she founded in February, 2010.