Comments on: Making Friends After 30 | Why Are ‘Later Life’ Friendships So Hard?

By: Prime Parents Club

Prime Parents Club — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 00:29:41 +0000

YOu want me to pass her a “Do you like me circle yes or no” note for you?
Heh.

/jackie

By: Crystal Paschal

Crystal Paschal — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:58:03 +0000

I am loving all the great comments and thoughtful discussion, thank you all so much! I still haven’t worked up the courage to talk to my barista yet (I KNOW), it is nice to know I am not the only one struggling with this.

By: Crystal Paschal

Crystal Paschal — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:46:36 +0000

I agree with Jackie. Very well said. I think I have a tendency to use internet interactions as an excuse not to get out more, if that makes sense. Almost like crutch.

By: Crystal Paschal

Crystal Paschal — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:35:09 +0000

Thank you! I feel the same way about some good friends I have. We live minutes from each other, but life being what it is, we can go weeks without seeing each other. Then we get together and wonder why we don’t do it more often!

By: Crystal Paschal

Crystal Paschal — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:31:16 +0000

It is harder to maintain friendships, isn’t it? I feel the same way. Sometimes the thought of adding new friends seems daunting because I don’t always feel like I do a good job of keeping up with the friends I already have. Like you, I am thankful for the friendship of my husband. Sometimes he’s the only adult I talk to in a day!

By: Jackie (WritRams)

Jackie (WritRams) — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:55:48 +0000

“I think that while the social aspects of the internet can be good, I’ve begun to feel like it is actually counterproductive to actually making a real friend or friends.”

Well said Colleen. I’ve thought the exact same way, but haven’t articulated it as well.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:28:07 +0000

Your post articulates exactly how I’ve been feeling. I am now 54, I am a stay at home mom for my 10 year old and I feel so very isolated. I was a career woman and a mom (I have two daughters in their 20s) until I had to retire at age 46 due to a back injury. I think that while the social aspects of the internet can be good, I’ve begun to feel like it is actually counterproductive to actually making a real friend or friends.

By: Tami

Tami — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:50:37 +0000

Great Article! I enjoyed reading it and got a little chuckle. I also enjoyed reading the comments. Christin has been my BFF for many many moons and what she is telling you is so true! I was so excited when I found out she was “moving home” and then once she was back here I was so busy raising my 5 kiddos that we still only “visited” like she still lived out of state. Now, that my kids are getting a little older (22,20,18,14,and 12)… I want her to come back home, so I can try again!!! I would also like to peronally invite Jackie out for some “adult time” (I can even provide the sitter). One thing I know for sure… the older I get…. the more valuable true friendships are to me. I am very careful with who I will even call a “friend”, most are “just people I know”. Not to get mushy… but, Christin…. is a TRUE 100% Friend!
Again, Great Article. Good luck with your Barista friend! What have you got to lose! ;)

By: Prime Parents Club

Prime Parents Club — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 15:39:52 +0000

That’s so true, Brandy. I think one of the reasons that being a SAHM (or even WAHM or Dad) is the isolation. You have to make a REAL EFFORT to get out and into the “adult” world or you start to become so isolated. I really need to work on getting out with more adults.

/jackie

By: Brandy

Brandy — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 14:51:01 +0000

It’s not only harder for me to make friends now that I”m a stay at home mom it’s hard to keep the friends i do have. It seems the older I get the less friends I do have..thank god for my hubby ;-)