Last month I shared three sacrifices that homeschooling (educating my children at home) requires of me and I posed the question, is it worth the sacrifice?
Is this path really worth what I’m giving up?
To evaluate further, let’s see what my children have to gain as well as myself.
I know, I know. I can’t protect my child from everything. But it is a parent’s job to protect their children to a reasonable degree. Our children should be more protected than not, in my opinion, because they are at an impressionable age. Do I want them following the crowd out of peer pressure and, in doing so, go down a path of some of their foolish, immature peers? Even if my child is a “good” child, I believe “bad” influences can and do succeed to ruin “good” children rather than “good” children changing the “bad.”
By educating my children at home I am forced to spend a lot more of our waking hours together interacting, influencing, and getting to know and understand them. If they are away in school, then they are gone from home about six hours a day, five days a week. If they ride the bus, it’s even longer. Then they would likely have homework, or they may have extracurricular activities. Throw in supper and a decent bedtime and I ask you: who really is being the main influence in my child’s life?
In order to really know, understand and influence my children, I have to spend not only quality time with them but, a LOT of time with and around them, even when part of that time with them is simply being able to observe them.
The other half of me getting to know my children is them getting to know me. Depending on the type of mother I am, this time together will build their confidence and trust in me as their mother who loves them unconditionally. They also get to know what they can or can’t get away with, which means I have to be consistent with discipline.
I don’t believe homeschooling is the “only” right way to educate your child. I really don’t. But these are just a few of the great things that can come out of homeschooling, depending on the kind of person you are as a parent.
We only have our children for a few fleeting years and soon they will be making decisions based on the way they were influenced throughout the years they were growing up. As parents we need to be vigilant for our children. We need to do our best to lay the right foundation now so that as they mature they can trust us to come to us with anything and trust our judgement to help them make the right decisions. And, it’s going to take our time. We have to start making time with them.
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“Homeschooling-mom” and “mom-blogger” are two roles Tracy Zdelar didn’t plan on owning. However, as they often do, things changed. She is the Prime Parents’ Club Homeschooling Contributor and also writes at her blog Hall of Fame Moms. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.[/author_info]