“I know you are, but what am I?”
Do you remember that taunt from the playground? Perhaps you’ve even heard it being thrown at your child. But, from an adult’s perspective, it’s actually a pretty good question. What are you? Better yet, who are you and what do you want to be?
Self-actualization, in a nutshell, says that “what a man can be, he must be.” It’s extremely individual for every person. For instance, in your mind, you will reach your full potential when you have reached your ideal of the ultimate parent. So, how do you get there?
The first step in reaching your full potential is throwing yourself into the experience with everything you’ve got. Think ultimate soccer mom. Change diapers with abandon, bake cupcakes like your life depends on it and hug your kids like you’re trying to squeeze the breath out of them. Everything you do with your kids should be amped up. After all, you’re a perfect parent!
Do you remember Stuart Smalley on SNL? Every Saturday night, Stuart, obsessed with self-help programs, would look in a mirror and talk to himself: “you’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggone it, people like you!” You can do the same! Never mind how stupid you feel. Stare at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself what you are. You are a great parent, you are a good person, you are a wonderful human being. Okay; it may be a bit over the top and in reality, just plain silly, but hey! It might be your thing.
No one has ever gotten through life successfully by following the status-quo. If you’re the kind of person that people call “weird” you’ve got this one in the bag. If, instead, you’re the person that people turn to for your level-headed seriousness, you’re going to have to lighten up a bit. Think outside the box when it comes to reaching your full parenting potential. Maybe you need to take a class? Perhaps you need to get input from your kids? Maybe you need to do the exact opposite of what your parents did.
Whether you want to be the perfect parent, a great spouse or a UFC fighting champion, you’re not going to achieve your perfect self by sitting idly by on the sidelines. Decide what you want to be and get active towards reaching that personal goal today!
On your path to self-fulfillment, keeping a running log of your progress will help you see where you’ve come and how far you need to go. You’re going to screw up; it’s a given. Write it down!
Keep track of your feelings, frustrations and accomplishments. Don’t lie to yourself and don’t write flowery prose; just be open and honest. Do, though, hide your journal well. If your kids find it, they’re going to make fun of you which may cause you to give up in a fit of embarrassment.
Self-actualization is a good thing! Everyone should realize their potential, work towards it and achieve it. Just do me a favor: pick one thing and do it well. No one likes an overachiever!
[author_info]About the Author
Tina Sanchez is a self-help guru who also writes for the Aviva Directory, a website search advisor with lists of sites from self-development to marketing guidance. You can search by state, such as West Virginia or by categories, like online revenue.