These days it is almost unheard of for a couple to remain “pure” until they are married. But, it is possible to do … and so worth it! Years ago, friends of mine decided that they would not even kiss each other until they were married. I was so impressed by that decision that I knew that I wanted to do this, too.
When I met David, we both knew that there was chemistry between us. After our first date, he walked me to my door and gave me a hug and we almost fell into the snowbank. It was sweet and I knew I wanted to see him again.
We went out for pizza on our second date. As he was walking me back to my car, I suddenly started to get fearful. What if he wants to kiss me? How do I tell him that I want to stay pure and I don’t want to kiss anyone until my wedding day?
We were standing by the car, and I knew the moment was coming. He bent down towards me and suddenly I blurted out, “I DON’T WANT TO KISS UNTIL WE ARE MARRIED!”
Well, he was a little shocked.
“Until we are … um … what?”
I guess it was a little too soon to start talking about marriage on the second date, huh? I sort of backtracked and said, “Well, I don’t mean OUR marriage, I just mean I want to stay pure until my wedding day.”
And David said that was the moment he knew he wanted to marry me. He wanted a woman who was pure and had saved herself for him.
After seven months of dating, we got married. And let me tell you, it was tough to stay pure but so worth it. One could argue that there is nothing wrong with kissing, and I am no judge of anyone who decides to kiss before marriage. But in my mind, the only person I wanted to ever kiss was my husband and he wasn’t even officially my husband yet.
We had a large outdoor wedding at our pastor’s house on the waterfront. Everyone there knew that we had not kissed before, so there was a lot of anticipation for the moment when the pastor said, “You may now kiss the bride!” And that first kiss was fantastic! We actually had fireworks go off while we kissed. And then, we didn’t stop kissing for a long time.
I won’t give you details about the wedding night, but it was everything that a girl could dream for.
We have been happily married for five years now and have a beautiful little girl.
It may not be everyone’s decision to do what we did. But I share this story in the hopes that others will be inspired to live a life of purity. It is worth it!
Guest writer Marie and her husband David are Real Estate Agents in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada.