I’m a “Real Housewives” franchise fan. I know it’s not cool and it’s considered trash TV by some, but I figure I don’t watch that much television so I allow myself some mindless, non-PC TV. It’s kind of like reading those trashy novels while you’re at the beach that you wouldn’t read at any other time during the year.
If you’re not familiar with the “Real Housewives” line, it is several shows on BRAVO that covers mostly rich and over-the-top women in different cities. They do things that you, as a 40-something woman, would never do and also spend more money on a weekend trip than most of us would see in a year.
It’s like that train wreck that you can’t look away from.
Real Housewives of New Jersey
Last night I went to sleep right after I watched the latest episode of “Real Housewives of New Jersey.” As I tossed and turned in and out of sleep, this episode wafted through my head and intertwined with my dreams mainly because of something one of the husband’s said–he called his wife a “c***” on national television.
Joe and Teresa Giudice
If you’re a fan of any of the tabloids or of entertainment shows, you have probably heard of Joe and Teresa Giudice. They are the couple that seemed to have more money than God and flaunted it to everyone, only to come up in the news with hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt and a multi-million dollar home in foreclosure. Fans of “Real Housewives of New Jersey” have watched Joe and Teresa Giudice use people on the show and burn bridges, destroying almost every relationship they encounter, including (and seemingly) their own this season.
The husband, Joe, has never been politically correct. He comes across as an uneducated muscle head who loves to put women in their place. Over the past few months, tabloids have been all over Joe’s shenanigans including DUIs, fake identities, and even alleged affairs. However, the always-smiling Teresa poo-poos anyone’s question of her failing marriage, choosing to stand by her man even though she’s made comments about separate sleeping quarters (“his bedroom”) in the house and he constantly berates her on the show.
Joe Calls Teresa the “C” Word
The thing that really bothered me about the recent episode and that terrorized my dreams was that Joe actually called his wife the “C” word.
During a dinner scene with the entire cast, Joe looks at his phone, pushes back from the table and tells Teresa he needs to take a “work call.” Now, I don’t know if he had a little too much wine and forgot he was wearing a mic, but it was pretty clear to me that he was taking a call from a female. He gave a naughty laugh and said something like, “Oh, don’t tell me that right now” in a very intimate way.
Teresa, who must be suspicious, even though she tells everyone she’s not, gets up from the table to go after Joe. When Joe sees her coming he says to the person at the other end of the line, “Here comes my bitch wife. She’s such a c***. I have to hang up now.” And then pretends to be on a business call while Teresa demands to know who he’s talking to.
Sure I’m ok with the weird entertainment value of the show and I don’t take any of it too seriously. However, when a married man with three daughters starts to throw around the “C” word, I have a problem. It’s such a derogatory and demeaning word for women. It teaches women–daughters–to see themselves in a less than flattering way. It gives men permission to say things to women that they don’t have the right to say. It’s just … hateful. Why would you put up with this as a wife?
Joe, is this how you want people to talk about your daughters? Shame on you. Be an example for your girls, and more importantly? Respect your wife … especially when everyone is watching.