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5 Easy Steps to Parenting Immortality | How Kids Can Remember You When You’re Gone


Create great ways for kids to remember you.In the past three years, both of my parents have died.  My father died at 59 from an injury at work—it was very sudden.  My mother died at 61 due to an illness—we saw it coming but it was still fairly sudden.  To say that I haven’t spent some time contemplating mortality over the past few years would be a fallacy.  I don’t think I’m in full-bore mid-life crisis, but with a fifteen-year-old daughter, a one-year-old son, and another daughter due in just a few weeks, I have spent a little time lately thinking about how to make sure that they’ll remember me when I’m gone.

So, enough with the doom and gloom and on with the list of things that I think everyone should do to leave their lasting impression on their kids and loved ones.

5 Easy Steps to Parenting Immortality

1. Record your songs, poems, and stories.

Whether you’re a prolific troubadour or a scribbler of notes on napkins, record them in your own voice and put the tapes in a box or the files on a hard drive.  I have a few precious recordings of my parents’ voices and I treasure them.  I’ve also recorded a few simple songs of my own for my kids to have years from now.

2. Search YouTube for your favorite childhood videos and share them with your kids.

I was raised watching the Muppet Show and have many fond memories of watching that show with my parents.  Recently, I searched and found some of my favorite segments and songs and shared them with my kids.  Now they run around the house singing “Mahna Mahna” and they know why it’s so funny!

3. Write a blog, letters or your memoirs.

The writing I do on this site and others, as well as my podcast not only help me to express and understand my work-a-day life, but they also serve to chronicle this particular point in my life.  I hope that these writings and shows live on in cyber-perpetuity so that my kids can enjoy them when I’m gone and remember this part of their young lives and good times with their dad.

4. Live as healthily as possible, but still make pancakes on the weekends.

Eat right and exercise so that you live as long as possible, but start some traditions that are easy to continue.  Most weekends, I make pancakes for breakfast and the entire family sits around the table, listens to music and talks about their lives.  This tradition may, years from now, mean that anytime my kids enjoy pancakes they will think back on these happy times.

5. Tell and show your kids that you love them and teach them to love others.

Don’t let a day go by that you fail to both tell and show your kids that you love them.  They may not remember your words, the sacrifices you make, or the vacations you take, but they will remember the feeling of love you have for them.  Even more, you’re teaching them how to love others.  There needs to be as much love in the world as possible, so when you tell and show your kids you love them you’re not only teaching them an important lesson you’re paying it forward for the rest of the world.


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Wade is the father of a fifteen-year-old, a one-year-old and is expecting another baby very soon. He is the host of the "Fathers Over Forty" podcast. A former long-distance cyclist, weight loss guru and master gardener, Wade is sport-challenged, television-averse and constantly worried that his Man Cave pass might be revoked. When not at his full time job doing assistive technology for people with disabilities, he's reading, cooking, or spending time outdoors with his kids and his beautiful wife, Jenny. Connect with Wade at: or on Twitter at: @FOForty


  1. Jenny

    October 16, 2012 at 12:02 pm

    Oh, Mister Wingler! It terrifies me to think about you or I being gone one of these days, but I am SO GLAD that you think about leaving this legacy around for our babies. They will be so blessed to have these things of yours when they’re older, and I think they’ll always have a reminder of how darn crazy about them you are!

  2. Prime Parents Club

    October 16, 2012 at 9:42 am

    I loved this post. This is a great reminder for FUN and EASY ideas. We don’t want to think about it, but someday we *will* be gone. I do want my kids to be able to have memories/stories that maybe they retell their own kids/grandkids someday about their crazy mother… ;) /jackie

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