I recently turned 44 years old. For some women around my age, I felt you cringe when I admitted that because, well, we live in a society that tells women we have to stay young to be beautiful or successful or great. I have a mother who never spent much time dwelling on age and was never embarrassed by it. Even now, at almost 70, she looks fantastic and celebrates it. She totally rocks it.
Good for her.
For others, maybe you’re in your twenties or thirties and cringe when you think about turning the big 4 – 0. However, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: It’s just been in the past couple of years that I’ve really felt like I’ve come into my own. It has nothing to do with money or success or jobs or accomplishments and accumulations. It has to do with how I feel about myself at this age.
Gone are the days of angst about what other people think about me; gone are the days of trying to fit in. It’s not that I don’t care about other people, it’s just that I really don’t care about what other people think. Now, I do things that make me happy; the things that are good for me and my family, not because it looks good to others.
I’m overweight, my hair is grayer and I certainly have the wrinkles to prove some unsavory sunning choices in my younger days, but the thing is? This is me. It’s me right now … who I am at 44. And, honestly? It couldn’t be better.
So, allow me to encourage you to count your blessings if you make it to this point. Celebrate your mid-life! Don’t worry about erasing your experiences with Botox or basing your worth on your size. It’s just not worth it, and you’re just going to miss the best part of your life.
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