I‘ve seen Gina and Pat Neely a couple of times on Food Network with their cooking show, “Down Home with the Neelys” and really liked them. They were such a cute couple and always seemed to just enjoy being with each other, with that fun banter that made it interesting to watch.
When I heard the news that the Neelys were splitting, I was kind of sad. However, I wondered the same thing I always wonder when I see husband and wives working together:
If you’re married (or living with someone), think about it: could you spend EVERY.SINGLE.WAKING.MOMENT. with the person you love? You get up together, you get ready for work together, you eat breakfast together. Then, you ride to work together and when you get to work, you work together. All day. At the end of the day you ride home together. You have dinner together. You argue together. You clean together. You go to bed together. And then in the morning, you get up and do it all over. Every.Single.Day.
I don’t know about you, but I started to hyperventilate just reading that.
My husband and I are close to this–we both work from home, for different companies, but sometimes I feel like that’s still all up in each other’s business too much. And then I think, “I should hire my husband for our non-profit because he is a kick-ass sales person.” And quickly after I think, “One of us would die shortly after.”
I mean, really. Let’s think about it. When has the couples thing worked successfully for those in the spotlight who could model it for us? Sonny and Cher? Nope. Lucy and Desi? Not them either. Hillary and Bill? Hmmm. Tammy Faye and Jim Bakker? Well, nevermind.
If you’re living and working together, when do you get the “me” time that every couple needs? Where are the boundaries that we all need in both our personal and professional lives? But, most importantly, how do you leave those arguments about leaving the toilet seat up at home and not drag it into the work place?
What do you think? Could you work with your significant other?