I’ve heard the fables that potty training a second kid is easier and I desperately wanted it to be true. Not for us! My oldest son got it quickly just after he turned 3, so I prayed (at the very least!) his little brother would be the same way. NOPE! We tried naked time, using the kiddy potty, using the normal toilet, bribes; anything I could think of. He wouldn’t do it. Bribes for his favorite cookie failed in this department. How crazy is that? A cookie to SIT on a potty? NOPE! I knew he was ready (he had shown this during a naked time when he held it from 7am-1pm) and was scared of the change from diapers to this unknown. Oh, and the loud flushing sound at the gym… he heard it for first heard at the worst possible time for potty training, right before he turned 3.. I didn’t want this transition to be traumatic for him, and I hoped we could turn it into a great learning experience (you know – that change can be a good thing!) but had no idea how to approach it.
Kid-centric Potty Training Method
Luckily, I mentioned it to a neighbor of ours, and she explained a kid-centric method she used for her daughter last year. It sounded pretty straightforward for the kid and how they view the process, which I liked. It’s the 3-day potty training method (I am not getting paid or even acknowledged by them for this, it’s just part the method I used). I read the short downloadable book and realized it was an intensive hands-on approach. I first imagined it as just a backup plan, but after a few weeks, I realized it was the only remaining option.
I had to set aside an entire 3-day weekend to accomplish it, and it was important that it would be just the two of us. I had my husband schedule that Friday off and he planned to take our older kiddo out for the day. Little to no distractions so we could get through it together was the idea here. As the weekend approached, I would mention how we will be throwing away his diapers soon. ‘Okay’ is what he would say, but a short time later he’d yell ‘yay diapers!’. He had no idea what was coming!
Stubborn Child Potty Training
The first morning of the PT weekend, we had breakfast as a family. I made sure he had several drinks hoping to get a good start. Once we’d cleared the dishes, we told him it was time to throw away the diapers. All of us were with him, and we were using the ‘exciting!!!’ voices. He looked freaked out, but with the whole family supporting him the entire way to the garbage can, he tossed them into our cheering and was excited. And then he put on his underwear (huge step! He yelled no at underwear so many times in the past!). After everyone else was out of the house, the two of us hung out and played: airplanes, legos, cars, trains; you name it. I love playing with my 3-year-old, but I was exhausted by 11:00 and couldn’t believe he didn’t have to go yet!
That’s when he started to freak out. I could tell he needed to pee, but he was too scared to sit on the potty. He cried and yelled off and on for 45 minutes. I almost broke a few times, thinking we should try again in a few months. And then I reminded myself I knew he was ready, he’s just scared. I held him, let him know I was there for him. And then I started to open a little airport toy he wanted (potty bribe!). That is the moment he said ‘okay, potty’ and went to the potty and peed! He was so excited; he peed two more times in the next 30 minutes. He had one little accident and caught himself (and that is the last pee accident he’s had!)
3-day Potty Method
This is about when we deviated from the 3-day potty method. We were still hanging out, but I wasn’t right next to him every second. We went outside so I could weed and he could play on his slide. He was so near to needing to go #2 that he ran to me frantic, but wouldn’t go inside. Finally, he had an accident. I cleaned him up and had a feeling he would have a couple of more of these before he got the ‘feel’ for it…but not that Friday. Saturday, he held it in, and I gave him apple juice that night, hoping it would help him need to go on Sunday. He had a small #2 accident on Sunday and then got one in the potty, and he was excited. “Bye, poop!” he yelled as he flushed it. Monday, he held on to it again. He did fart in the potty and flush that yelling “Bye Fart!!!” though! Tuesday, he got it in the potty. And from that day on (this is a week later) he’s made it all into the potty, not one accidents (and no more holding anything back). We have even gone to the gym; today, he was there for about 3 hours and no issues!
All in all, I’d say the process (for daytime only, we’ve not gone to nighttime yet, we use ‘nighttime underwear’ LOL) took five days total. I was comfortable that he would use the potty and hold it when he had to by day 3, for #1. #2 was two days later. That’s not bad! I may have deviated from that method, but I did what I knew would most likely work for us. I hope that by sharing this helps a couple of people with their challenging-to-potty-train kiddo!